Tuesday, April 30, 2013

Book Review: The Journal of Best Practices: A Memoir of Marriage, Asperger Syndrome, and One Man's Quest to Be a Better Husband by David Finch

I was intrigued by this book after I heard the author interviewed on NPR when it first came out. Astonishingly, neither David or his wife Kristen realized that David had Asberger's until they had been married for five years and were on the verge of divorce. Kristen works with troubled children and that's actually how she ran across  the questionnaire that David takes and aces, that shows he has the syndrome. Finally, all of his quirks and predilections are explained.

And one thing David realizes is that his single-minded focus, his extreme attention to detail, and his love of Kristen can be used to refocus his attention towards fixing their relationship, and working on himself to make him a little easier to live with.

It takes baby steps as he realizes he has no idea what to do with his small children, and doing something as simple as "letting Kristen take a shower without bothering her" is a lot easier said then done. But his determination is strong, and Kristen's patience is seemingly everlasting, and they truly do work through a mountain of problems and issues. The book had humorous moments, particularly as regards David's more idiosyncratic quirks. And it also gave a bit of a roadmap for how everyone can work to improve relationships and be less annoying, as most of us have less distance to travel in these efforts. The book was amusing and David's forthright honesty is admirable.

I bought this book at my local independent bookstore.

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